“Let there be spaces in your togetherness, and let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it be rather a moving sea between the shores of your souls.”
– Kahlil Gibran
Getting married is one of life’s most treasured experiences!
As you plan your future together:
Would you like to understand your partner better?
Would you like to know what your partner thinks about certain issues, but you may need some help in broaching them?
Would you like to use the strengths of your relationships to build a solid foundation for marriage?
When you’re considering marriage, deciding on your honeymoon or figuring out where you want to live likely are among the first things you start to plan. Pre-marital counseling may not be as high on your list, but it’s probably one of the best investments you can make towards a strong, fulfilling and lasting marriage.
The intimate nature of marriage requires that you talk to your partner about even the awkward or uncomfortable stuff. Pre-marital counseling will help you learn how to be a better listener, and how to make your voice and needs heard in a productive and positive manner. In addition to helping you and your significant other strengthen your communication skills, it can help you identify differences that could create future conflict.
For instance, if any of these is true for you:
+ You and your partner sometimes have arguments that don’t seem to get resolved;
+ You feel like you’re usually the one who has to compromise to keep the peace;
+ You’re concerned about how your partner’s financial situation will affect you as a married couple;
+ You want to find healthier ways to resolve conflict;
+ You want to resolve religious or financial differences; or
+ You want to define your marital roles and expectations,
then pre-marital counseling can be a great benefit to both you and your partner.
Pre-marital counseling can also help you to develop your conflict resolution skills. When you live with someone, you will have arguments ranging from the very mundane to more serious issues. How you argue will be a part of the story of how you are as a couple. Learn how to de-escalate arguments and how to fight fairly, so you don’t cause emotional pain from things you said that you’ll never be able to take back.
In pre-marital counseling, we will likely bring up topics that you’ve discussed with your partner previously, as well as subjects you hadn’t considered before. This fresh perspective from an objective third party will uncover new details from your partner. This is also an excellent time for us to find unexpected areas where you disagree, and give you the tools to handle possible future conflict.
Using your PREPARE-ENRICH premarital counseling assessment results as a springboard, you and your partner will continue building the skills needed for a healthy, lifelong and life-giving union.
Contact me here to begin your journey towards Loving Life Together.